As a retired *cough* dominatrix and a woman who’s partial to a bit of kink, I’ll rarely pass up the opportunity to review a promising new bondage kit. This set in particular is especially exciting for me as it’s the baby of fellow sex blogger and Lifestyle Domme, Cara Sutra. To those aspiring to make a living out of their passion for writing, multi award-winning journalist Cara is a source of knowledge and inspiration. Now she’s putting her money where her red lipstick lives and has created the first of a range of products under the Cara Sutra Ltd brand.
Her Cara Sutra Fantasy range is a vegan-friendly, beginner-friendly range of bedroom bondage accessories designed to give an authentic experience. The collection comes in two colours – red and black – and she’s been kind enough to give me a red Beginner’s Bondage Kit for an impartial review. It contains wrist cuffs, ankle cuffs, a collar, a lead/leash, bondage rope, a flogger whip, a blindfold and a breathable ball gag.
I’ve taken a slightly different route with this review due to the number of components, so here are my need-to-knows in a shorter style:
Smooth and soft with slight stretch and easy to tie. The ends are cut and taped and will need maintaining over time but this is standard with any kind of bondage rope. You get 10 metres which is enough to create a cute body harness (link NSFW), so ideal for use with the collar and cuffs. Simply create your harness and use the removable clips on the cuffs to bind the hands or ankles to the rope. Incorporate the collar by threading it through the D-ring at the front – a safer option than tying the rope around your sub’s neck.
I gave the rope a machine wash at 30 degrees and it came out beautifully clean. The ends were still in tact, there was no noticeable colour run and it was just as soft and pliable as before it went in. Marvellous!
10/10 – Plenty of length, soft on the skin and easy to use and maintain.
A simple, stylish design with an adjustable buckle at the back. The ball itself is 5.5 inches in circumference but it does have air holes to improve comfort. It’s mounted between 2 O-rings on a sliding mount that allows reciprocal but not rotational movement. I found this gag was a little on the large side for a beginner but that certainly does create the desired submissive effect.
The plastic has no taste and is firm enough to be bitten without shattering in the mouth. A good range of holes on the back buckling meant there were no problems with fit on either a small or a large head. The construction is very solid and will withstand plenty of play. I personally would have preferred a smaller ball so the gag could have been worn for longer, jaw ache is only sexy to a point.
7/10 – The ball was a little on the large side for a beginner but the quality and fit was good.
Wrist and Ankle Cuffs
I have nothing bad to say about these wonderful bedroom bondage restraints. The
combination of PVC and faux fur is gloriously lightweight and comfortable to wear. The hardware lives up to its name and stands up to plenty of resistance, they are a surefire winner. They connect with chain/clips combo that can be released by the wearer if desired, making them perfect for first-time play.
The fit for both wrists and ankles was generally good for both slender and larger, muscular physiques. You’ll notice that the ankle cuffs are slightly bigger in size than the wrist cuffs. The cuffs measure 8.5-inch to 11.5-inch for the wrists and 10.5-inch to 13-inch for the ankles.
Unfortunately the ankle cuffs were too big for me. I have Skinny Minnie legs (someone once derided me for having ‘photoshopped ankles’ that looked like ‘chopsticks’ – Cheers, that person!). Just as well I’m not too inclined to switch.
10/10 Attractive, comfortable to wear and incredibly strong. If the cuffs are a little large they still function well and feel comfortable to wear.
Simple in style and reasonably effective. You may notice light peaks in under the nose bridge and if you tip your head back, you’re able to see through the little gaps. Thanks to the soft faux fur lining, you’ll be compelled to close your eyes during wear and this makes it a little more effective. The classic elasticated style means minimal slippage and maximum comfort during the throes of passion.
The fit was a little tight on a larger head but the elastic will loosen with stretching. Not one to wear as a sleep mask, its a little rigid when fresh out of the box but will relax with time. This blindfold will certainly see some use as it’s a great visual to complement the set but I personally prefer to wear silk satin blindfolds.
I was also a little disappointed with the way it looked on. It’s not the most attractive blindfold I own and the shape is unflattering on even the most chiselled features.
7/10 – Let in a little light and allowed peaking but better worn with eyes closed. Good fit, slip resistance and comfort but a touch too rigid. Not the most attractive blindfold.
Lightweight, well sized for the hand with fine tails and a short spread. I really like the addition of an O-ring to the handle for repetitive swinging motions or storage, it’s the little touches that go a long way. The appearance is lovely, especially the wrapped handle. If you had to gripe, it would be for the exposed acrylic backing on the tails.
This flogger whip unfortunately came out as being a little much for a beginner. There’s something to be said for a softer thud when you’re acclimatising newbies to whips, unfortunately this was a little too stingy. Even when used softly, sensation had a tendency to build too quickly for some. I’d definitely recommend giving this flogger a go if you’re a fan of spanking canes or riding crops, the sting is very similar. For the rest of us, you need to take a very gentle approach perhaps with some stroking of the buttocks and thighs in between reps.
8/10 – Beautifully made with attention to detail. Tails produced a fantastic sting that required a very gentle hand that’s difficult to achieve for newbies.
Collar & Leash
At some point between being a goth and becoming a domme I got rid of all of my collars. I used to have (and wear) a tonne of them. I was thrilled to find a collar and leash in this pack as it’s a duo so often overlooked in other bondage sets. #win
The collar is really imposing, it’s wide with a large buckle and has a front-mounted O-ring for connecting the clip on the leash. It’s also lined with faux fur which makes it incredibly comfortable to wear. The fit again was great on both a small and a large neck.
The leash itself looks quite flimsy but I’ll assure you it’s not. It’s fitted with a swivel clip for superior maneuverability. Having played tug-of-war with a very burly chap, I can confirm that both collar and lead are still in tact. I however need to hit the gym because I failed to pull him over.
Cara’s collar will fit necks measuring between 15 and 18.5 inches in circumference and is perfectly effective and usable if worn a little loose.
10/10 – Excellent fit, attractive design, incredibly comfortable and stands up to some serious abuse. Ideal for use during sex and for directional play.
Summation – Should You Buy the Cara Sutra Fantasy Beginners Bondage Kit?
Absolutely. This is one of the most adaptable and comfortable bedroom bondage kits on the market. It contains and amazing array of items, making it exceptional value, and they’ve all been thoughtfully produced to be both attractive and effective.
You will need some practice with the flogger, ball gag and bondage rope and that makes it a great gateway into other BDSM play and trying new gear. With a little patience and some practice, you’ll be able to create some impressive fantasy scenarios at home – especially once you master the art of making rope body harnesses. The removable clips allow you to create a real array of body restraints. Hogtie, anyone?
Overall Score 9/10 – High quality, great value and plenty to experiment with. Would make a great gift for your partner or something exciting to try on your next weekend away.
You can buy The Cara Sutra Fantasy Beginner’s Bondage Kit at Adultoys UK for £69. The kit is presently on sale for £59 for a limited time.